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FEELINGS & THE HURT SPIRAL

Each topic faces a balancing act. A relationship can be off balance in either direction. There are 2 unhealthy extreme ways of handling each topic and there is a healthy middle: The Third Option.

Things to keep in mind with feelings:

  • Behind every feeling and/or behavior is a need.
  • Feelings are neither right nor wrong.
  • There is more than one way to do things.

The hurt spiral is when we claim the right to hurt our partner and justify it because we’ve been hurt, intentionally or unintentionally. What can we do when we are first hurt? How can we avoid the Hurt Spiral and spiraling down to a detrimental and vicious cycle of communication? Join us to learn The Third Option and how to work your way there, to the healthy, middle solution.

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