Each topic faces a balancing act. A relationship can be off balance in either direction. There are two extreme, unhealthy ways of handling each topic, and then there is a healthy middle: The Third Option.
A few things to know:
- Anger is a feeling and feelings are neither RIGHT nor WRONG.
- Angry feelings are OK. Angry BEHAVIORS may not be!
Questions to Ponder:
- When angry, am I a “stuffer” or an “attacker”?
- What can I do with my anger?
- How can I begin to deal more constructively with my anger?
- Do I encourage my partner to stuff their anger by refusing to listen?
- Do I allow him/her to direct anger at me that belongs elsewhere?
John Gottman – four negative patterns that can lead to divorce
Join us to learn The Third Option and how to work your way to the healthy, middle solution.